Spoiler alert: she doesn’t either.
There are so many days where I literally have no idea how I managed to survive it. Some days, I haven’t had breakfast until 3pm.
Plenty of people said to me that they don’t know how I manage it with twins. My answer tends to be the same for everyone: I don’t know any different. I believe this is the beauty of having a set of twins as my first (and last) children. I do not know what it is like to have one child, so I have absolutely nothing to compare it with. It was the same with my pregnancy. People asked me all the time if it was really bad. It was, but I don’t know if it is for carrying one child. (As a quick side note, I really think someone should hire me to go around schools and tell kids the truth about what being pregnant is like. I’m convinced I could lower the teen pregnancy rate.)
My girls are more or less on the same pattern and sleep at the same time — although this means they want feeding at the same time — and they settle each other. We have had them in the same cot from day one (they have been used to each other for nearly nine months) which I think has massively helped. They keep each other warm at night and they settle each other — sometimes by punching — if the other one stirs.
In some respect, I think I have it quite easy — I don’t know how people cope with a demanding toddler and a newborn. But the truth is, I really don’t know how I manage it either. Some days, I just want to sit in the bathroom away from them and cry for 10 minutes, but then I have to go back to the annoying heartbreaking noise of them both crying too.
There is the occasional day that goes by easily, where the girls take it in turns to be fed and have a fuss over. But more often than not, they want their milk at the same time and that time is RIGHT NOW.
Babies have no patience, it appears. They don’t understand “Can you wait five minutes while I sort out your sister, please?” just yet. I have said it before that I do not want to wish my girls’ lives away, but I cannot wait for the days where they can hold their own bottles.